The child shouts, or talks in such a loud voice, that other people are disturbed by it and the child may suffer from hoarseness of voice.
Children who are loud may not be aware of their loudness. Therefore, the first step in learning to adjust the volume of one’s speech, is to learn become aware of one’s speech volume. For the price of just one dollar, you can download a volume meter app into your phone, and use it to get decibel readings of the child’s speech. If this is not possible, you can also use sign language to communicate to the child your assessment of the child’s speech volume.
The best way of preventing children from bullying each other is to help them develop skills that promote friendship, collaboration and caring for others. Two such skills – apologising and defending – are particularly relevant when bullying is occurring.
Once the child has become better at assessing his own speech volume, it becomes possible to move on to the next step, to learning the skill of controlling one’s volume and turning it deliberately down at times when it tends to go up.
In order for other people to be able to help the child to learn to control his speech volume, it is important to ask the child how he wants others to remind him of the skill. Once there is an agreement with the child about how others may indicate to the child that the child’s voice is too high, it becomes possible for others to help the child by reminding him kindly with a gesture to turn down the internal volume button.
- the skill of talking softly
- the skill of keeping one’s voice low
- the skill to turn down the internal volume button
- the skill to be aware of and to regulate one’s speech volume
- the skill to adjust one’s volume according to the situation
- the skill to be sensitive to how other people perceive one’s volume