Reminding Your Child
Not “setbacks” but “forgetting”
Children seldom learn skills in one go. Even if they are very motivated it often happens that they sometimes do the thing they were not supposed to do. This, the return of the problem behavior, is commonly called setback, but in Kids’Skills we prefer to use the expression “forgetting the skill”. After all, it is normal for all of us to temporarily forget skills that we are learning.
If you feel that your child is spending too much time playing video games or chatting with friends on the net, and your attempts to limit the child’s screen time fail, you may consider using a strategy based on Kids’Skills.
Let your child decide
Ask your child how they would like others to remind them of their new skill if they occasionally forget they have learned it: ”How would you like your supporters to remind you if you forget you can do this and start acting in the way you have learned not to?”
Children generally prefer non-verbal reminders
Experience indicates that children are very sensitive to the ways in which others remind them about things they should remember. Code words, gestures, signs and facial expressions tend to work better than verbal comments reminding a child about desired behavior.
This article is owned by: Kids’Skills https://www.kidsskills.org/WP-fin/
