Low Self-esteem
It’s not uncommon for parents or caregivers to believe that a child’s problems are caused by low self-esteem. In most cases, I suggest that the opposite is true: your child has low self-esteem because of a problem. If you regard low self-esteem as the consequence of a problem rather than its cause, you focus on helping your child overcome it. You can do this by identifying the problem, converting it into a learnable skill, and using the Kids’Skills steps to help them learn the new skill.
Self-esteem consists of skills
If, on the other hand, you wish to have a direct influence on your child’s self-esteem, that is also possible. To do this, think of low self-esteem as a sign that they lack specific skills we all need in order to appreciate, respect and think well of ourselves. These skills include the ability to feel proud of our accomplishments, the ability to register and share our successes, and being able to accept praise.
It can also be helpful to think that what can be perceived as low levels of self-esteem is simply an indication that your child lacks some specific and concrete skills that all children need to possess in order to be able to experience happiness.
It can also be helpful to think that what can be perceived as low levels of self-esteem is simply an indication that your child lacks some specific and concrete skills that all children need to possess in order to be able to experience happiness.
Synopsis
When a child who has low self-esteem as problems, help him overcome those problems and see whether his self-esteem improves.
If you want your child to improve his self-esteem, think of self-esteem as possessing a composite skill that incorporates a number of distinct and learnable skills.
Here are some examples of minor skills that children should possess in order to have good self-esteem:
- The ability to smile and say “Thank you” when someone praises them.
- The ability to show an adult something they have done, saying something like: “See what I’ve done!” or “Isn’t this good!”
- The ability to say good things about themselves.
- The ability to say something good about other people
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